Marriage Equality in California in Serious Trouble
Thursday, October 9th, 2008The fight for marriage equality in California is in serious trouble. I’ve thought that it was sitting pretty, between the large celebrity donations, and the polls saying it would win. However, news today says different. Before I get there, though…I’d like to address why you may care.
The reason I think you (provided you aren’t wanting to marry your partner, but can’t) care is because even though you may not be gay, and you may not even think gay marriage is ok, it still affects you, and your world. When the government takes sides in what is fundamentally a religious battle, religious views get the short stick. Just because your religion may not approve of gay marriage, doesn’t mean you are exempt. Gay marriage is purely a legal battle. A battle for two people who live their lives together to get legal recognition, for things like medical care, financial equality and even taxes. Whether you agree with it, or not, it makes legal sense for these people to be allowed to commit legally. It means that if one of them dies, the child isn’t sent into the foster care system. It means that when one of them gets hurt, the other is allowed to make medical decisions. It means they have to face up the the responsibilities that committing to another person brings, and that they are allowed to.
Some people seem to think that allowing California’s Proposition 8 would mean that churches would be required to perform gay marriage. That’s blatantly false.
Marriage as a legal term, and marriage as a religious term, are two very different things. No one is asking the LDS or the Catholic Church to “submit” to gay marriage. And if they aren’t performing the wedding, they have no business trying to ban it.
And if you are ok with, or do support, gay marriage, if the ban on gay marriage in California passes, the effort will be set back by decades. Literally. I got this email from a friend this morning (personal info obscured for privacy):
My friend, Peg, in L.A. sent this to me today. Please consider helping to protect the right to marry for same-sex couples in California. The proponents of Proposition 8 (the LDS church among others) are well funded and seem to be winning the fight at this point. There are only a few weeks left to turn this one around. Best, Janet
Janet (personal info removed)
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Subject: Fwd: Marriage Equality in CA: We’re losing today, HELP!Here’s a way to make your dollar go twice as far. Ellen Huang is my landlord and a great activist. Any small donation will make a difference. I know we’re all strapped to the max and I am so moved by everyone’s efforts this year on behalf of Barack Obama. (Don’t forget the Bake for Barack bake sale in Silverlake this Sunday am!) Prop 8 is also near and dear and important. Anything is appreciated. Thanks
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From: Ellen Huang <ellen@queerlounge.org>Date: October 9, 2008 12:41:50 AM MDTTo: Ellen Huang <ellen@queerlounge.org>Subject: Marriage Equality in CA: We’re losing today, HELP!Friends in and outside of California:I presume that most of you have heard the alarming news of where we are vis a vis money and in the polls to save marriage equality for gays and lesbians in California. A loss would mean turning back decades of progress the LGBT movement has made - not only affecting those in California, but all of our progress nationwide.In May, California made history by allowing gays and lesbians to legally marry, but marriage equality is now being threatened by those who would write discrimination into California’s constitution and ban same-sex marriage. Our opponents, the YES on 8 forces funded by the Knights of Columbus and the Church of Latter Day Saints and others reported raising almost $26 million dollars—out performing US by $10 million. Yesterday the first public poll was released by CBS that showed us 4 points behind.
What does all of this mean? It means this race is a DEAD HEAT at best. It also means that this race is close enough that we can turn the tide. But, it will take EVERYONE doing more than they ever thought they could do for this campaign. That means digging deeper.
We have multi-million dollar media buys to make every week between now and November 4th.
I’m committed to raising $10,000 toward this effort to defeat Prop 8, and welcome ANY contribution, no matter how small to help. Go to the link www.noonprop8.com and to the donation page specifically https://secure.ga4.org/01/equalityforall, and please contribute. Pleaseput in my reference code 558 too!
If you donate $1,000, you get a ticket to a party at billionaire Ron Burkle’s house in Los Angeles (Barbra Streisand is co-chair and Melissa Ethridge will perform – see invite) on October 21. There’s a form on here labeled REMIT, and fax it back to get into the event. This is a perk for doing the right thing and helping!
Ellen Huang
Founder & Program Director
Queer Lounge, a program of GLAAD
(323) 663-6016 office
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